"How to Avoid Gossiping"
Proverbs 11:13 - KJV
A talebearer revealeth secrets:
but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.
A gossip betrays a confidence,
but a trustworthy person keeps a secret. A Godly women will take the secret to the feet of Jesus and morn ( cry out) .You should learn to differentiate between harmless gossip and the kind of gossip that hurts people.People who are spreading gossip (and most people do at some time or another) don't spend a lot of time getting facts.
There's also a difference between blowing off steam about a person or incident with a trusted friend and spreading toxic misinformation (or one-sided information) to a bunch of people. Ask yourself what's the point of repeating the information.
Some questions to consider about your information: Is it true? Is it necessary? Does it need to be said? Would I say this to their face? Is it harmful? is it substantiated (can you support the gossip with actual facts, instead of just hearsay)? Would God be pleased with what I'm saying. Am I doing this to make myself feel better or raise my status? Is this something that I've heard second or third-hand? Does it need to be said right now?
If you're gossiping because it puts you at the center of attention,or think of yourself more highly than you ought to think, you need to stop. That's where the harmful characteristic of gossip come in. Be a leader and stop the madness and let others know that God is not pleased with gossiping.